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Imagine
a world without families.
How would that be? Life
will seem too scattered
and spread out and chaotic.
Mamma, dada, grandma,
grandpa, uncles and
aunties all will disappear
in one go. Children
especially won't know
where to go or whom
to look for guidance
or what to do under
different circumstances.
The
ancient man was nomadic.
Moved from one place
to another. There was
community living then
and everything belonged
to everyone else. Therefore
there was no need for
families. It was just
communities.
But
it is clear that man
is social animal and
need company to be happy
and fulfilled in life.
Families started when
man began settling for
cultivation of land.
As
man and woman bonded
for sociological, political
or emotional reasons,
they made children together
and raised them as part
of a family.
Families
give a sense of shared
experiences to man and
woman as they live day
after day. When they
solve problems together,
when they cook, earn,
eat and sleep together,
it is like sharing a
world together. This
makes man and woman
feel safe, loved and
happy.
When
within this family,
children arrive and
grow up they feel protected,
they feel they are unique
and they feel they belong.
Families are important
so that children grow
feeling loved and secured
and in turn spread their
goodness to the world
and raise loving families
themselves when they
grow up.
For
children families are
very important. They
feel valued, they feel
they have nothing to
worry about, they can
abandon themselves into
play, and nurture their
talents, do what makes
them happy. Children
can narrate and express
the happenings with
them in the outside
world, when they go
to school, or play with
other children, or they
have a question, or
if they observe something,
with the members of
the family, especially
mom and dad. Thus families
give a chance to ventilate
feelings which otherwise
may remain bottled up
inside.
Families also give members
feeling of historical
depth, with long lineage
of grandmas, grandpas
and uncles and aunts.
Families give children
role models and an opportunity
to understand what grown-ups
are like.
Every
family has conflicts
and points of strain
within it, but there
is also warmth, support,
affection and understanding.
Children and adults
together can vent out
their feelings and communicate
their opinions. It is
within families that
children can learn to
tolerate different points
of views.
Families
also help in inculcating
certain values in children
which lay the foundation
for their future. They
internalize certain
codes of conduct during
the growing-up period
and absorb personal
values which become
guiding stars for them
for the rest of their
lives.
Also,
families are a support
for old age. Sociologically
speaking, families help
society arrange itself
in neat comprehensible
units. This makes society
function in an orderly
manner.
And
lastly, families can
solve the problem of
inheritance of property
belonging to a family
by bequeathing it from
one generation to another.
But
the main purpose of
family is not passing
on of the wealth from
generation to generation,
but nurture love, warmth,
sense of belonging and
security, to those who
are together because
of natural and mutual
bonding.
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