Just after divorce is the most difficult time for any adult. Circumstances which led to the decision to divorce and the whole legal process thereafter, still hurts and the pain of it can be acute. It affects the loved ones also, like friends and other family members. Anger, frustration, and loneliness and guilt and play of memories of the divorce circumstances in the mind can cause havoc on physical and emotional health.

Any change or transition is painful. Divorce is a very big change. While there are financial issues to be tackled, settling back in a new house or the old house without the partner can be excruciating and too demanding for an individual.

It can be very trying time for anybody, you want to avoid meeting people who both of you knew, you fear you will have to face awkward questions, or even glances, they may blame you for divorce, or that they may give you information on your ex-partner you are not in a mood to hear.

Guilt and pain of loss and the resulting depression and sadness are common for a separated or divorced couple. The best thing to do is not to remain too alone, especially in the first year. Talking about your feelings with friends or those in the family whom you trust can expedite the healing process.

Also you should stop doing one thing almost immediately and that is to blame yourself for the divorce. Feeling of guilt is the heaviest on the minds of divorcing couple and that is the feeling you need to get over first.

Going out for early morning walks in the garden and savoring in the greenery around can help in lifting your mood. Green is supposed to colour of healing.

Read funny books, and be around friends who have good sense of humor so that you can laugh more and lighten up. Watch comedy films and go to watch humourous plays if you a theater nearby.

Set a routine and follow the rhythm of the day. Join yoga or meditation camps or classes. Make health and reading a major part of your routine. And meeting friends and loved ones should form a must in your daily routine.

Kids can be great healers without being conscious of being so. Watch kids play in the garden or if you have a kid play with him/her more than you did earlier. If you can play with kids then do so. By watching kids play you will soon realize, how abandoned and lost they are in their play, away from worries of life and the universe and all the other things. This may in turn give you back your positive attitude. And if you are able to see the beauty of it, you may suddenly feel a gush of lightness hitting you and soothing your pain.

Also do not ignore your health. You may tend to ignore your health as you wallow in the past and let memories play a game with you. Keep good healthy routine.

Also you can try and meet other people who may be in similar circumstances as you and going through the same kind of feelings. Meeting such people can help you share your feelings with those who can absorb and understand what you are going through quickly. Also knowing that you are not alone in this world to be in a situation like this, can help you reduce your hurt.

Also try and be more physical in your expression of loved ones, those who are helping you tide over the pain of divorce. You can hug them more often, kiss or pat them or hold hands with them.

Joining back work after a few months can be very good idea.

There must have been strong grounds for divorce. Think of them and you may realize that you are just coming out of a bad relationship and you have taken a bold step in life and you are being given another opportunity to change your life for better.