Discussing women's sexual problems has been a taboo subject and in our society it continues to be so. Yet you can now find it being discussed in magazines and on internet and many people are slowly opening up to it.

Women's point of view on sex has undergone a revolution in the past few decades. While earlier women assumed sex to be something that they tolerated for security and sometimes intimacy men provided them, now many women are becoming aware that sex is something that they too need to enjoy and understand. Women have become aware of their own 'sexuality'.

Sexual difficulties in women relate to lack of sexual desire, lack of arousal or vaginal lubrication and inability to reach an orgasm. It seems almost all women have faked orgasm at some point or the other in their lives. This is just to prove how a passionate a lover they are or just not to disappoint their partner.

So there is a sexual problem if you do not feel a desire, or aroused or fail to reach orgasm or find sex to be physically painful experience.

Anxiety and stress in other parts of life, exhaustion because of child-care and conflicts within the relationship can result in sexual difficulties in women.

But most women's sexual difficulties relate to their negative attitude towards sex. Because somewhere deep down they have been told sex to be 'bad' and that they need to 'protect' themselves from 'predator men', they have developed a negativity towards sex, it has gone deep into their psyche. Negative thinking or perpetual denial mode about sex has caused lack of desire in many women. Inhibition towards indulging in sexual activity can lead to sexual difficulties.

Women seem to look at sex a little differently than man. They feel like being warmed up to it through a series of teasers before the actual act of sex. This is what men need to understand. Women expect sensitivity and tenderness in love making. This can greatly improve the sex life of a couple.

But if a man doesn't show this tenderness, woman may loose interest in sex. Women need to discuss their expectation with their partner if lack of sensitivity and tenderness is part of your sexual problem.

If there is a physical issue related with your sexual difficulties it can be overcome by seeing a doctor.

You need to reduce and share your work load with your partner and communicate your stress and other problems with him to resolve issues. You need to make time for love and feel relaxed when you are about to make love and not too exhausted from day's stress and work.

If you introspect and find that you suffer from 'negativity' and 'denial' mode towards sex, leading to lack of interest, you need to have a thorough recheck in your thinking. A fulfilling sex is important to a fulfilling life. Sexual pleasure is not something to be condemned but taken as a positive aspect of life. Taking initiative in love making can also have a big impact in resolving sexual problems of women and freeing them from some of the inhibitions towards sex.