There is a great deal of worry among would-be-parents about the change of relationship between them because of the arrival of a baby.

A woman fears that the romantic spark which she shared with her life partner will dim after she gives birth to a child. Her greatest trauma is that she may cease to be desirable to her husband and be looked at merely as a mother by him. He will stop looking at her in that old loving way and leave her to herself and her child-care and be less involved in the whole process, at least much less than her.

Her fear is that not only she will lose status as a woman-lover just because she is going to be a mother now or is a mother but her husband will fail to become a wholesome part of this wonderful experience of giving birth to a child and becoming a parent.

On the other hand, a husband may feel neglected because the mother's whole attention is wholly focused on preparing for the wonder arrival and he may even feel jealous.

You need to take care of all these aspects. Even if you are going to become mother and father, you need to realize that you are much more than that. Being parents is just one of the roles that you have newly assumed and should not undermine the old relation as husband and wife and let it be affected too much. You should still make time for each other separately. Your new roles are just additions to all the different roles that you have played in your life and is not a replacement to being loving husband and wife.

Of course, arrival of a child is going to change your lifestyle in a drastic way and you have to accept this and be lovingly sympathetic to it.

When you become pregnant don't wrap yourself up so thoroughly into that role that the other person, because of whom all this became possible, feels neglected. Also husbands should not cease to see the woman as merely a mother now, but see her as a woman whom he loves and who is going to be mother of their child now.

Keep the romance going and add new colour to it with this change in your life.