Do you know the top signs to look for that your date is not a match? You will when you read and use the relationship dating advice in this article.
Sometimes when singles are maneuvering through those difficult first three dates to find the partner they really want, things go their way. But even when things are going their way, singles are not sure if their date is a match or not. So here are five signs that you can look out for that your date is not a match.
1. You have clearly different goals and visions
Before you date, be very clear about who you are and what you want in life and a relationship. So you know what your life vision is, you know what you want in a relationship. You know where you're going in life and you want to find an aligned partner with that. And it's not a match if this person does not line up with your goals and vision.
2. Your date exhibits behaviors that cause you concern
And if they're not paying attention to you, here they are meeting you for the first time evaluating you as a possible life partner and they're looking around the room, they're looking at other people, they have a hard time making eye contact and listening to what you're saying, if they're acting in a demeaning way, you know, come on. Get real.
3. Your value system is different
Even if your goals are the same and your vision is the same, your date is not a match if your value system is different. For example, you could be a person who has a high value in being of service and making a difference in the world. And you can have the same same goals and life vision of somebody that has no interest in making a difference in the world. So if your value system is different, it's not a match.
4. If your requirements are being met
Now, in sorting, screening and testing prospects, this is the number one thing that we want you to pay attention to. We want you to be so familiar with what your requirements are, you do not need a list. You do not need to write it down. So you're really focusing on the question of "Would my requirements be met in this relationship with this person?" From the get go.
5. What they are saying and what they do not seem to fit
So, if someone presents themselves as being generous and you're at a place where you're serving coffee and pie at a coffee shop and they do not leave a tip, how generous are they? Pay attention to what they say compared to how they show up and they do. And if it does not match, run away screaming!
And so there are my five signs that your date is not a match. You may see several of these during your first three dates or you may see only one. The point is that you are aware and ready that you may go through several "first three dates" before you find the love of your life.